Integrity Circle | Joy Recovery

A men's membership for building a life of integrity — worked in front of other men doing the same.

The Integrity Circle is for men in recovery from deceptive sexuality who are done managing an image and ready to practice being one man, everywhere, for the rest of their lives.

Not a course you finish. Not a program that promises your marriage back. A place where integrity gets practiced weekly in front of men who won't let you hide — because the man doing this work alone is the man most likely to slide back into the dark.

Doors open Friday, September 18. First live teaching Monday, September 21.

How it works

Foundations first. The moment you join, five recorded modules open: what this work is, the system that brought you here, how men actually change, the map of the whole road, and how reporting works. Watch the first two before your first Monday. Finish all five in your first two weeks.

The Table — Monday nights, 7:00 pm Central. Live teaching every week, recorded and added to the library the next day for viewing anytime. The teaching cycles through nine practices of integrity across the year, at greater depth each pass.

Your weekly report. By Thursday each week, you post a short written report: what you committed to, what actually happened, one truth that cost you something, one pattern you caught in yourself. Other men read it and respond. You read at least two of theirs and respond. This is the driver of the whole Circle — not the teaching, this.

Accountability groups. At thirty days, you can request a group: three or four men who know each other's stories, meet weekly on their own schedule, and hold each other accountable to their commitments. Groups are the the environment where your integrity is truly forged.

The Academy is included. Your membership carries full access to the Joy Recovery Academy — live teaching Tuesdays and Thursdays at noon Central, plus the complete video and resource library. On its own it's $97 a month. Here it's part of the same subscription.

The training philosophy

I've spent my life in two disciplines: behavioral science and theology. The Circle's teaching is built from both, woven together, because on this subject they agree: insight alone changes no one. Men change through teaching, practice, and community, sustained over time — that's the behavioral science, and it's also the oldest wisdom of spiritual formation. Scripture shows up in the teaching alongside the psychology, offered the way everything here is offered: take what helps. No belief is required to join, and no one is graded on faith.

What is required is honesty, measured the only way it can be — by observable behavior over time. Not insight. Not remorse. Not fluency in the vocabulary. A track record.

Who this is for

Men who have caused harm through deceptive sexuality and want to do their own work in front of other men.
Men whose partners have stayed, left, or haven't decided. The work here doesn't depend on her answer — that's the point of it.
Men of any faith or none.

Who this is not for

Read this part slowly, because the checkout will ask you to sign it.

Men looking for a way to win her back. The Circle is not a strategy, and nothing you do here will ever be offered to anyone as evidence of change.
Men who have been physically violent with a partner in the past twelve months. That needs treatment this membership cannot provide, and we'll point you toward it.
Men in acute crisis. The Circle is education and practice. It is not therapy, not diagnosis, and not crisis care. If you're in crisis in the US, call or text 988 now.

A word to partners who find this page: nothing in the Circle asks anything of you, and nothing in it will ever be handed to you as proof of anything. His joining proves nothing; only his behavior over time can. Your pathway with Jacqueline is untouched by all of this and owes this program nothing.

What it costs

$129 a month — the founding rate, locked for as long as you stay a member — for everyone who joins by October 31. After that, the rate is $149 a month. Monthly only: no annual plan, no contract, cancel anytime from your own billing page. There's no refund window, because monthly billing is the guarantee — if the Circle isn't for you, cancel, and your access ends when your month does.

Both rates include the Academy.

What you'll agree to at checkout

Five statements, checked one by one, in your own name:

I am a man, 18 or older, who has caused harm through deceptive sexuality, and I am here to do my own work.
I understand the Integrity Circle is education and practice done in the open, and is neither therapy nor crisis care.
I have not been physically violent toward a partner in the past twelve months. If that is not true of me, I agree to seek appropriate treatment instead.
I agree to the Circle's Accountability Agreement, including confidentiality, honest reporting, full participation in my accountability group, and non-weaponization of the material. Cameras are encouraged and never required.
I understand my membership can be ended for violations of the agreement, with the current month refunded.

You'll also confirm the account is yours alone — nobody else has your login. Other men's honesty lives behind it.

Doors open Friday, September 18.

Until then, the best way to find out whether this room is yours is to spend ninety minutes with me first.

How Men Actually Change — Saturday, September 19, 11:00 am Central. Free, live, ninety minutes with time for questions at the end.

I'll cover why insight alone has never changed anyone, why willpower fails at the exact moment you need it, and what has to be in place instead. It's the same framework the Circle is built on, taught straight through, with nothing held back for members.

Attendees can't see each other. You won't be called on, and nothing you do on that hour puts you on a list.

Betrayed partners are welcome to attend for their own reasons. Nothing in the hour is evidence about any particular man, and nothing in it asks anything of you.

Questions men ask

When does it start? Doors open Friday, September 18. The first live teaching is Monday, September 21 at 7:00 pm Central. But the Circle has no start dates after that — men join year-round, and Foundations begins the day you do.

I'm already an Academy member. Do I pay for both? No. Circle membership includes the Academy, so you'll hold one subscription, not two. Open Member Billing from your own account, switch your plan to the Integrity Circle, and everything you have in the Academy comes with you. Billing adjusts for the days you've already paid for.

Is this therapy? No. The Circle is education and structured practice. It doesn't replace therapy, and for some men it works best alongside it. Formal therapeutic disclosure is referred out to qualified professionals, always.

Do I have to be a Christian? No. The teaching draws on Scripture and on behavioral science, and every man is invited to take what helps. Nothing is assigned, tracked, or graded on faith.

Do I have to be on camera? Never. Cameras are welcome and never required, anywhere in the Circle. Plenty of men participate by voice and text under a first name or initials.

Can my wife see what I write? No. The Circle is men-only, enforced at the platform's permission level, and your account is yours alone. Which cuts both ways: nothing you do here gets reported to her, and nothing here is ever offered to her as evidence.

My wife uses the Academy too. What happens to her access?

She keeps it, free, on her own login — but she needs her own account before you join the Circle. That's true whether or not you ever join.

Every Academy membership includes a second seat at no charge. If the two of you have been sharing one login, she should claim her own first. Academy members: the link is in your welcome message inside the Academy, or reply to me and I'll send it. Everyone else: it comes with your membership, and I'll send it when you join.

Here's why it matters enough to handle before you click join. Your Circle account carries access to a space where men write honestly about their own conduct. If two people share that login, someone those men never agreed to include is in the room. Their confidentiality isn't mine to give away.

What if I join and it's not for me? Cancel from your own billing page. Your access runs to the end of the month you paid for, and that's that. No contract, no exit interview.

How much time does it take? The Monday teaching is about an hour, live or replay. The weekly report and responses take most men under an hour. Your accountability group, once you're in one, sets its own weekly time. Call it two to three honest hours a week.